Go Figure!

It is amazing how it is always the people that won't work, take care of their kids, that treat people like crap that have everyone catering to them. Take my situation, for example. My husband's Ex-wife (EW) has not worked in seven years. To her, having a job is going to donate plasma twice a week. That is not a job. Then, she has her own apartment, is a ten minute walk from the bus stop but won't find a job because it is too far to walk. Then she walks to the plasma center but has to walk past the bus stop to get there. She claims my stepdaughter on her benefits so she can get medical on herself and my stepdaughter, food stamps and government housing. Now stepdaughter lives with EW but when EW gets tired of dealing with her or tired of playing "mom" she sends her back to live with us. Here is the kicker. No matter how many time we would tell her to have SD taken off of her benefits she refuses to. EW had SD on her benefits even when SD was living with us. MIL told us that she had to pay her bills somehow. DH told MIL that EW legs were not broken and that she could get a job and work just like we do.

Then there is where she is living. She lives in a housing project. We just found out that everytime that SD comes to stay for the weekend (she stays next door at MIL's) EW has people in and out of her apartment. Most of these people EW doesn't even know. The last weekend that SD was here, she stated to me that I was the reason for her mother never being there for her. I was the one that put up with EW trying to break up my marriage so her mom could live with us rent free to get her to be there for her kids. And then half the time EW would be out with her "flavor of the week." But I am the reason.

You don't know how horrible it feels to watch a child go from calling you mom because you are the only one there for her and her brother to being told that she wishes you would die because her mom has filled her with lies. SD was a good kid when she was with us but then after she goes back to her mom she turns just evil. She has two little sisters that she is mean to. She pushes them around and smacks them. Then when I get on to her about it she starts in on me. DH tells her to stop and punishes her but then when she goes back to her mother, she is told that she doesn't have to listen to us. We have custody of her. Not her mother so she doesn't realize that we can come get her anytime we want and that her mother can't do anything about it. Too bad EW doesn't just pack her things and move back to Oregon where she came from.